In a deeply uncertain world, I absolutely cannot stress enough the importance of telling yourself the truth. In these times, you should be able to depend on your honesty. Here are 3 pieces of advice gleaned from my personal and professional journey thus far as a subconscious specialist:
1) Learn what your voice sounds like.
If you do not know where your feelings & perspective begin and end, you will never construct your life appropriately for who you actually are. There is no bypassing this. Methods like hypnotherapy, meditation, journaling, and solo time are great ways to facilitate this intimacy. This is how you remove the influence of the bullying & controlling voices you may have encountered over a lifetime. This is how you develop the skill of integration. You can avoid yourself all you want, but, at the end of the day, you are stuck with you. That can be a burden or a gift at your discretion. You have to get real. Let it be a pleasure.
2) Learn what happiness, satisfaction, success, and peace feel like to you.
Experiment as much as you need to in order to become familiar with the feeling tone. Humans have been human a long time. We generally don't change that much. We find pleasure in exploration & play paired with creature comforts. Find your combination.
3) Become totally unwilling to be your own enemy.
Even if you choose to look at the world as a battlefield, you should develop an awareness of what constitutes actual harm. Stop looking at what is new and/or different as reflexively harmful. How? Through deciding to be unwilling to harm yourself. Reality is subjective. You are at the very center of your world. Who and what is trying to jerk you around should never be more important than you not jerking yourself around.
In case it wasn't clear enough: tell yourself the truth. Unflinchingly and unfailingly. You can flinch a little while you are practicing. Be tender, not cowardly. It pays infinite dividends.
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