Some of the best feedback I’ve ever received about Power 101: Sex - Sacral Activation is that the listener can now instantly detect ambivalence. You may not immediately see why that’s so key, but allow me to explain. We make some interesting choices in life when we are ambivalent about ourselves. That kind of swimming along, frantically paddling under the surface mentality that we’re taught is adulting is ambivalence in action. When this is present within ourselves, it gets reflected back to us. We are not to blame for how we are treated, but we are directly responsible for what we allow over time. Once you know you don’t like something, it’s up to you to make your plans for something different. “Like” is a tepid term, but it gets you started.
Back to spotting ambivalence: not everyone cares about you or will center you in their thoughts. That’s fine because we’re all our own main character, that’s literally in the job description you get when you opt into life here. You can be of service, but this sentence starts with “you.” Spotting ambivalence quickly helps you ensure your safety and success. You drop hypervigilance, increase self-trust, and overall make more secure connections & decisions.
In life, there are times when a container is actually a corridor. You’re just passing through. You are likely to encounter transitory people, feelings, experiences, etc. Again, in the job description. The problem arises when we try to turn corridors into our containers. How that begins is a lack of clarity. We’re not always clear, which is why we develop practices to stay in touch. You have a phone in your pocket but to use it as a channel, you have to set some intentions and press some buttons. This is what intuitive guidance is like. It’s always there. But you need to take a moment to do your part.
Back to this client who learned to spot ambivalence… She’d had the Power 101 combo (Root & Sacral) in her cart for 4 months. (I didn’t even know my website could work that way.) I asked her what happened to make her say yes. (And then commit to 6 weeks of daily use, which is really going all the way.) She’d been listening to Soul Retrieval desultorily since its release… probably because she wanted to skip ahead to the 101. I knew what happened, but I wanted to hear her say it so she knew for herself. Her response was, “I got mad.”
Sensations like “mad,” “anger,” and “rage” are great portals out of ambivalence. Mostly because you can’t ignore that you’re not ambivalent. The temperature is up. Irritated? You can ignore that. Annoyed? You can ignore that. (When you become more attuned, you don’t because you take yourself very seriously so that your life remains playful.)
A “situationship” (I don’t even know what that is - see: “ambivalence”) had been going on for quite some time. (Please stop sleeping with people who don’t care if you live or die. That may be reflected in a vote and/or just a general lack of concern for your welfare.) A job was undervaluing her and reflecting that in her assignments relative to her pay. A landlord was completely unresponsive to her persistent maintenance issues. Her savings to move out of that situation kept vanishing because of needing to fix things herself. She had been a place of uncertainty for a long time. When we get accustomed to dysfunction, we become ambivalent to cope. Remember how I always say, “I don’t teach you to cope, I teach you to create?” This is what I mean.
Sometimes what shakes us up is seeing someone with ostensibly very little difference to ourselves living a completely different caliber of life. She was silently in an Instagram live (Office Hour) I did after quite some time away back in September. She saw someone she knew from my peripheral spaces talk about some major shifts that had happened for her. They came into my world at roughly the same time, but one went deeper and was able to reconstruct their own world more to their liking on a “faster” timeline.
(Having my own learning moment here; as I was writing this, I realized somewhere I was ambivalent. Time & my work. I don’t like a fake rush or pressure sales and I am a firm believer in what is for you being there for you when you need it. That’s true, and I am not the only way to do this kind of work. I am the only way to do Neurointuitive work, though, and I’ve had a number of people reach out to me once offerings are gone to then request them. I am unable to oblige unless my intuition dictates, and my intuition typically says no. This has contributed to a very important revelation for me that gave me something to tighten up. We are, in my opinion, past “imminent” danger. We are in the danger. This is not the time to be afraid, but it’s time to eradicate ambivalence about your own wellbeing. That applies to me, too!)
Seeing her sort of “peer” let her know she could’ve been living very differently. Her desire to do that finally overrode her desire for temporary comfort. This is not a thing that happens by accident but always by some small decision. We’ve all had something be “the last time.” When we look back and reflect, we know where we decided. It may not become clear for many years, but there’s always a beginning of the end. Her happy beginning is still unfolding, but I am authorized to share that 1) she's making a lot more money and 2) she's not in a situationship & whom she's attracted to has changed immensely. You don't have to do it my way, but it is like taking the express. I stand by it.
You, as a co-creator, have the power to decide on yourself. It’s your living or your dying we’re talking about.
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